Breaking up is never fun. The end of a relationship means the beginning of a period of mourning and healing for both people.
If the break up was mutual both people would experience a period of adjustment where they are getting used to no longer being together. If the break up was not mutual the person who ended things may be dealing with guilt and feelings that they may have made a mistake. The person being broken up with will definitely have to adjust, first to being rejected and second to life without somebody they still care for.
Keep in your mind that many people have some myths about break up.
Myth #1: There is only one soulmate for every one person in the world.
Reality: There are millions of potential soulmates for every person in the world.
You think he/she is the only one? Wrong. You may think that now, but you'll see.
Myth #2: Your heart will never fully recover.
Reality: It will.
As soon as you get recovered you eventually fall in love again with someone new.
Myth #3: You can't fall in love with someone new if you're already in a good relationship.
Reality: Yes you can. It's true that you can only be 'madly' in love with one person at any given time, but it is possible to be in love with two people at once.
People who are in good, happy, healthy relationships can still fall in love with someone new. That's what makes life complicated.How do you get through those first few weeks? Here we list eight essential things everybody must do in the early days of a break up to let the healing begin.
1. Avoid the former love.
2. Talk out your feelings with close friends.
3. Cry if you want to. Your crying is to cleanse you of any pain not make your lover come back.
4. Put away or give away anything and everything that reminds you of the relationship.
5. Don’t slip up and get together with your ex.
6. Focus on all the things about your ex that drove you crazy, turned you off, or that you just plain found annoying.
7. Think about the mean, cruel or rude things your ex may have done in your relationship.
8. Maintain a strict no contact policy and stick with it. Don’t pass notes through friends. Don’t make any calls.
Why should you mourn? Life is beautiful.Be happy!!!
